After several announcements and a last-minute cancellation, the star dropped his long-awaited debut single Ek Aur Ek 3 last month, which features Hania Aamir in an avatar. Now, Zafar shows a different side of himself and it’s got to do with relationships.
The Coke Studio Season 10 crooner recently took to his Instagram to share advice on how to avoid a toxic relationship. “I just posted the longest story known to mankind on toxic relationships (just a snippet tho lmao),” Zafar wrote. He then revealed his eight steps and asked his fans to tag someone who needed to read it too.
Perhaps the post had something to do with Momina Mustehsan, who he reportedly dated? Zafar recently posted that he is single this year after “two and a half heartbreaks later.” Here are his words of wisdom.
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“being single”… what a ‘boring’ thought at first for so many, isn’t it? 2019, we’re on apps like Instagram, where everyday we’re scrolling and crushing on one person after the next and then the next and so on. We’re seeing all those ‘cute couple’ posts and quotes that depict how amazing it is to be with someone in a relationship (not saying it isn’t nor taking anything away from them), but unknowingly we’re just being a prey to this idea that if that’s not us, we’re missing out on something. Or we’re not doing it right. We’re not ‘living’ life, or ‘having fun’. I’m here to tell you that’s not true. Chill. Some of y’all are actually 15,16 y’all need to chiiilllll. Take it from me. Here I am. 2 and a half heartbreaks later. I realised it the hard way that you don’t always marry your high school crush, nor a college one for that matter. Life wasn’t a fairytale for me when it came to that. I look back to when I was 15,16 or 18, heck even 20 and I’m like damn I was a stupid kid. But I get it, y’all think you’re the shit rn and that’s fine it’s just your age but what I’m trynna say is, it’s wrong to grow up with this idea that you need ‘someone’ to be complete. You don’t. I’ve seen so many people literally crave relationships, hell, I’ve been one of them at one point too and now I look back and I’m like akh-thoo. It’s so funny at times, I’ve seen people crave relationships when they’re single, and when they’re finally in one they wanna be single lmao. What do you think that means? It means you don’t know what you want. And when you don’t, you take time for yourself. You take some time alone. You spend time with yourself. Understanding yourself. Knowing yourself. Man I swear some of y’all haven’t even glanced inside your own selves! Y’all just wanna jump onto the next person and fill that void. For once, let your OWN self fill that void, and I promise you, you will become a force stronger than ever. Don’t confuse ‘being by yourself’ with ‘being lonely’. They’re not the same. I am by myself, but I am not alone. I have my friends, my family, and I have my goals and dreams to work towards and look forward to, and I’ve never been more focused and happier. Try it. ?
- Realise your worth and self respect. If it is being abused, walk away.
- Accept that you will miss them for a while. It’s normal and it’s ok too, because you were so attached, but don’t fall weak and go back.
- Block and cut them off from everywhere. Negative energies need to be completely blocked out for positivity to strive.
- Focus on your purpose, ambition and work. Use it to distract yourself and let it take up most of your time.
- Stay around friends and family mostly. If you can’t, spend time with yourself. Get to know yourself. Learn to be happy and content with your own company. Learn to love yourself. If you can’t, how can you love someone else or be content with someone else.
- Don’t jump onto the next person or seek a replacement or another relationship. Quit finding answers in others. Seek within.
- Be by yourself for a while. Let yourself grow, learn, absorb, mature, evolve and build perspective.
- Be thankful for whatever experience you’ve had. Whether good or bad or toxic. They only teach you. Everyone who steps into your life has a purpose. To teach you. So learn from your experiences, or keep crying about them. The choice is yours.